KISS PASSIONATELY

 KISS PASSIONATELY

By Ebuka Ugboma

kiss: passionate kissing: to press the lips of two people together in a very strong way

Kissing is one of our most intimate, intense, and powerful experiences. It is also one of the best ways to communicate love and affection. A French kiss means "an embrace with closed eyes." In old formal language it was called a double entendre: a hidden meaning communicated by words. This literary kissing evolved into the romantic passion style we know today.

The earliest records of kissing are in the Bible. God kissed Adam and Eve good night when they were tucked in and asleep. The Bible also tells of a kiss between Susanna and the Elders, who came to tell her she is accused of adultery. She was put in prison and refused a chance to defend herself because she knew too much about the true stories behind their visit. On the morning before her death, she stepped out of her cell to give that passionate kiss to Deborah, one of the Elders.   Children from 3–5 years old may have first been kissed on the lips by their parents when they said goodnight after tucking them in at night. By about age 6, children generally started hugging their parents good night. About 4 months later, in November, they will start kissing the parent in the morning when they wake up. The newly born baby is kissed by the mother, father and whoever else happens by to take it from her. Kissing is a passionate expression of gratitude for all that people do for us and for what we have done for them. 

A simple first kiss can teach a lot about kissing and how to kiss properly. A 1-year-old boy kisses his mother as he goes to sleep. He repeats the same kiss at all times before he falls asleep. At age 3, a boy who has not yet developed the ability to understand the opposite sex will kiss girls and boys alike, regardless of gender. He will continue this pattern as long as he can recall that first kiss. A 4-year-old boy who has always kissed his mother will hug his father good night every time. This is a simple form of lip-to-lip kissing which over time trains him to be comfortable kissing the opposite sex. It also encourages him to hug and kiss people in other situations like when visiting friends where his parents are not present or at church events where he does not have a friend in common with his father or mother.

A 4-year-old girl who has been hugged good night by her mom will kiss her father when she sees him in the morning. She will even hug him if they have time alone together in the evening. When she spends time with friends, she can show affection to both boys and girls. By age 5–6, children generally start hugging their parents goodnight and every morning when they wake up. They may even give a kiss on the cheek to their favorite parent as a sign of love or respect. 

A child's first real kiss is usually given with sexual intention toward an object or person of opposite sex; it is an act of lust filled with desire to get something from that particular object or person. The first kiss is given with the intent to get something from that particular object or person. And in the beginning, even though it is lust filled with desire, it will not be about sex. The first kiss is a feeling of longing and passion for a particular object or person. 

That momentous first kiss comes from an innocent and pure place in their heart. It comes from an innocent curiosity they have as they want to learn more about another person by sharing their lips together as one part of their body that they do not share with people generally – the mouth. That first kiss, because it is filled with true love and longing, can seem like an eternity as they try to make that moment last as long as they possibly can.

But as all first experiences go, the feeling of that first kiss disappears. And it disappears just after the first kiss because the person is not satisfied any more. The person's mind has changed and he or she no longer feels that longing and passion; their sexual desire has been satisfied and their innocence was lost with the lust they felt along with their first kiss.

The innocence they felt as they first kissed has been replaced with a feeling of lust.  The person can no longer see the object or person as pure and innocent in their heart. It is sad, but it is true.  Love disappoints; lust kills.

That is why we should allow our children to engage in those activities which encourage them to share kisses with those that are close to their heart and those that are not, so that they can learn from their mistakes before proceeding any further into their lives as adults with sexual desire for just about anyone who catches their eye.

In the middle ages, "a kiss without a mustache was like a night without a moon." Kisses were then limited to superiors, relatives and Godparents. In the Middle Ages and in earlier times, parents would kiss their children on the head or on the cheek, but not on both lips.

In Shakespeare's 'Romeo and Juliet', performance of a "winterspear" was part of preparing for marriage. It was a pre-betrothal kiss in which a girl would walk from house to house kissing all she passed. The kiss has changed little since then. Kissing has come to mean so much more than just pressing lips together: it is an act that can create intimacy and passion as well as express affection toward another person. A kiss can tell a lot about someone and show their true feelings.

We may say "Kiss me!" but few ever mean to do it. All that lips do is press together and then separate assuming the person we have kissed will smile. It's often done with the intent of saying you love some one or showing them how much you like them. It's part of human nature to share a kiss with those we care about, so long as no sexual intentions are involved.  

As simple as it seems, it is really a very complicated act of sharing and expressing love between two people who care for each other, which also demonstrates that they care for other people in the relationship as well. 

The most important aspect of a kiss is that it expresses a great deal of love and affection towards another person. 

One of the first kisses that children experience is at their first birthday party. Children are usually eager to give the birthday boy or girl a kiss on the cheek, which draws lots of attention to them. This action excites more people and encourages more people to catch their attention directly or indirectly in order for that person to get something from them, whether for better or for worse. 

From the very beginning of their lives, children who live with both parents grow up with a natural inclination to kiss them. They follow their parents' example in this activity and kiss their own parents before they are old enough to begin school and interact socially with other people. These actions are pure because the child has not yet developed the ability to understand the opposite sex; he will kiss girls and boys alike, regardless of gender. He will continue this pattern as long as he can recall that first kiss. 

A 4-year-old boy who has always kissed his mother will hug his father good night every time. This is a simple form of lip-to-lip kissing which over time trains him to be comfortable kissing the opposite sex. He will not touch his mother's breasts or her buttocks, nor will he do the same with his father. However, by the time he is 12 years old he is already starting to realize that the opposite sex is attractive for sexual reasons. And so kissing those of the opposite sex begins to be a part of their lives. 

But it doesn't stop there. Boys are encouraged to kiss their peers on the cheek when they meet them in other social settings. It has become an action that no boy wants to miss out on doing because it shows that they take care of others as an act of love and respect; they do this by showing affection towards them through a simple lip-to-lip kiss when greeting them.

That same 4-year-old boy who kissed his mother and father, now kisses his grandparents, his friends and his peers. He is now a 12-year-old boy who is beginning to show signs of sexual attraction for girls. And the more he kisses them the more he begins to recognize that girls are very attractive. His parents think nothing of this because it's their own child and they assume that he will grow out of this phase before marriage. 

But by the time he reaches 20 years old, this same 12-year-old boy will no longer kiss anyone on the lips unless kissing is going to lead to something else. He will stop kissing his mother or his father, his friends and the boys he has kissed in school. He wipes off that first kiss from his lips without any hesitation and soon he has not kissed anyone for years.

He does not want to kiss someone because he is afraid of getting something from that person if he does; he refuses to do it. The most important reason why this happens is because of the fear of getting caught doing such an act that can lead to a lawsuit, divorce and loss of reputation, status and freedom. He will only do it when no one will know about it or when no one is around to watch him conducting himself like that child who lived in his own home with both parents. 

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

 

Gary Austine Ebuka Ugboma Esq FICMC, ACIArb UK, FMA, AGIS, PMP

LLB Hons, BA Hons, Dip Mus Ed, Pdip Bus Admin, PDip Estate Mgt,  MBA, MSC Peace and conflict resolution.

Ebuka Ugboma has multiple degrees from different Universities across different fields; Arts, Law, Social Sciences and Humanities generally. He is a Chartered Arbitrator and Mediator, trained in the style and pattern of Chartered Institute Of Arbitrators UK.

Ebuka Ugboma has successfully published many books including Propensities And Habits For Success

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